There is fine line between hurt and deep bitterness towards individuals who have wounded us. It is important to learn how to deal with our pain, so that bitterness does not take root.
Search for the silver lining. Even the worst situations have a positive aspect. It is always possible to get something positive out of a situation, no matter how unpleasant, difficult or even painful it might seem.
So what do we get from having people in our lives that have hurt us?
We develop thicker skin and our backbone straightens. We develop resilience. We learn not to accept the same behaviors. We learn to be fighters. Our voice is no longer lost in a conversation. We learn the voice of experience to put things into perspective. We learn what we don’t want. We learn what we do want. We learn about what we deserve. We learn what we can tolerate and what we can’t. We discover another side of ourselves that we wouldn’t have thought possible that only happened when our world crashed down around us.
We also learn to appreciate what we have. We learn that time is fleeting and should not be wasted on people who don’t deserve it. Although sometimes painful, we DO have the ability to cut people out of our lives who shouldn’t be there. You learn it’s ok to leave.
Our lives should be spent on the people we love, the things we’re passionate about and on living each day to the best of our ability.
Carrie
