Have you ever been the victim of love bombing in a relationship?
At first you experienced an intense connection for one another, crazy passion, and an undeniable bond. Eventually, however, the relation exploded leaving destruction and chaos.
So what happened?
It was flattering. Gifts, thoughtful notes, overwhelming attention, late night phone calls and all from someone you just met. You felt like the most special person in the world. You were blinded by the vision of true love. So blinded, in fact, that you did not see the RED FLAGS.
Maybe you were flattered with the constant texting, the many emails, the passionate sex and the overwhelming attention. You were promised a future together. A lifetime with someone you just met… the stuff dreams are made of.
But here’s the question: Why would someone want to move a relationship along so quickly?
Perhaps the reason is they don’t want to risk giving you the time to find out who they really are.
Since the goal of a love bomber is to make you feel unbelievably special and irreplaceable, you tend to see it as love at first sight, as kindred spirits or have a natural affinity. You feel protected, understood, and safe.
Love seems so easy when things are brand new. You have never disappointed each other. There has never been a reason to be angry, annoyed or hurt. But all these things will happen in a healthy relationship. You need time to know how this person will react. You need time to see if this person capable of loving and determine if they are deserving of your love.
When someone seems bent on speeding the relationship along, it’s time to ask why. Often these people become controlling just as quickly as they swept you off your feet. Relationships that start with a love bomb rarely become long-lasting, loving relationships.
Therapy helps you recognize the red flags before you become entrenched in a toxic relationship. Therapy also helps you avoid entering relationships to fill emotional voids in your life. Finally, therapy helps give you strength to end toxic relationships before they cause any more damage.
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Carrie
