Do you look for someone to save you? Do you believe that your partner will make your life better? Do you look to others to give you advice and make decisions for you instead of making your own choices? Do you feel unsure of your lovability and constantly need reassurance about your worth? Do you accept blame in the relationship for problems that aren’t even your fault?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, you don’t love yourself in the way you deserve to be loved.
Depending upon other people for your worthiness is dangerous. To put your worth into the hands of anyone other than yourself is setting yourself for a lot of unhappiness and disappointment. Holding on to the idea of other people loving you is a poor substitution for actual self-love.
No one can give you your worth. A partner, family member or a friend cannot ever provide the satisfaction that comes from loving and honoring yourself.
Even if you land the perfect partner, this person will not be able to make you happy and feel loved unless you create the space for it inside yourself by practicing self-love.
Self-love is an inside job and many of us are clueless about where to begin the process.
Loving yourself certainly requires time, effort, and commitment. In order to become a person who has a healthy sense of self-worth, you must look within.
A good therapist assists you in identifying what your core values are and how you are living up to those values.
Ask yourself if you are truly being the person you aspire to be … or … if are you are depending on others to show you who to be.
Start loving yourself, instead of loving the idea of other people loving you.
Contact me to get started at carrie@carrienet.com
Carrie
