Red Flags and the Benefit of the Doubt…

How many times has giving people the benefit of the doubt resulted in you being hurt and disappointed? Have you ignored the red flags despite your intuition? How often have you found out the reservations you had about this person were completely valid after all? Trust is the chord that holds people together in relationships. … Continue reading »
Red Flags and the Benefit of the Doubt…

Why Are You Hurting Yourself to Help Others?

Do you find yourself supporting someone that is unstable, immature, irresponsible, reckless, volatile or an under achiever? Do you cover for someone else’s shortcomings? Do you lie or do things for someone to protect them from the consequences of their own actions? Are you constantly seeking approval and fearing not being loved? If in your … Continue reading »
Why Are You Hurting Yourself to Help Others?

Ready! Fire! Aim!

Do you think you need to have it all figured out before you start? Are you feeling pressured from others to have a life plan or purpose? Do you think you should be further along than you actually are? Do you think you should have an amazing career, the perfect marriage, be financially set and … Continue reading »
Ready! Fire! Aim!

Are you controlled by your need to control?

We all like to believe we have control in our lives. By creating some sort of guidelines, rules and boundaries, we expect the payoff to be some semblance of order. Having control creates the perception of security and certainty. Ironically, control is a typical reaction to the fear of losing control. If you struggle with … Continue reading »
Are you controlled by your need to control?

Go ahead. Be Selfish.

“It’s all about me….” Actually. Yes. I’m giving you permission to make it all about you. When someone accuses you of being selfish, there is no doubt it was meant as an insult. There doesn’t seem to be any redeeming qualities about being selfish. But do you put yourself last in the happiness department? Do … Continue reading »
Go ahead. Be Selfish.