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It’s OK to Grieve

I have learned to accept closed doors and bad vibes. It’s ok to grieve when a door closes. It’s ok to grieve when someone else… or life… closed, or even slammed it shut for you. It’s ok to grieve even if you closed the door yourself. It’s ok to grieve what you thought you wanted. … Continue reading »
It’s OK to Grieve
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Am I Healing?

How do I know if I’m healing?   ❤️‍🩹 I am beginning to feel my emotions. ❤️‍🩹 I stop reacting less and start reflecting more. ❤️‍🩹 I reach out and ask for help from others. ❤️‍🩹 I’m able to speak up without worrying. ❤️‍🩹 I don’t automatically second guess myself or ruminate. ❤️‍🩹 I begin to understand my triggers, vulnerabilities, and … Continue reading »
Am I Healing?
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The Anniversary Effect

What is The Anniversary Effect, and could I have it? The Anniversary Effect is any disturbing, unsettling feelings, thoughts or memories that occur on the anniversary of some sort of pain, upset, trauma, or loss. Birthdays, anniversaries, seasons (such as the holidays) or a particular date or hour of the day can all activate The … Continue reading »
The Anniversary Effect
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When does it stop hurting?

“When does it stop hurting?” I’m often asked this question as a therapist. Emotional pain can be unbearable at times. For many of us, it is easier to block out the thoughts and feelings we don’t want to feel. However, the more we avoid pain, the more we internalize our suffering. Maybe you’re experiencing grief … Continue reading »
When does it stop hurting?
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Change is happening with or without me.

Coronavirus has changed the world in major ways. Even if you or your loved ones haven’t contracted the virus, your life has likely been turned upside down by its spread. Does it feel unfamiliar and unsettling for you too? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I realized I am grieving. I have lost a deeper connection to family and friends. … Continue reading »
Change is happening with or without me.
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Closure is overated.

Closure implies finality; being able to let go of what once was. We are familiar with the concept of closure primarily when it comes to relationships. More specifically, when a relationship ends. Whether it is the ending of a relationship, loss of a family member, waiting for an apology, ending a stage of life, accepting … Continue reading »
Closure is overated.
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Where strength comes from.

After important losses, we struggle with feelings of emptiness, purposeless and loneliness. Chronic worry, pressure and sleepless nights can take a huge toll on our physical and mental energy. It is common to feel overwhelmed with questions and riddled with doubts. Routine tasks seem to take tremendous effort. Emotional strength comes from your ability to … Continue reading »
Where strength comes from.
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Why am I still grieving?

That crushing, heavy pain deep in your chest. The aching lump in the back of your throat. The stinging eyes. Headaches from crying. Mood swings. Numbness. Nightmares. Gut wrenching pain. Forgetfulness. Meaninglessness. Heart palpitations. Loss of purpose and emptiness. They say grief is a healing process. Then why is it the hurt so absolutely devastating? … Continue reading »
Why am I still grieving?