Shrink Rap

24 Jan

By Carrie Heinze-Musgrove, MA, LCPC, endthestigma, Comments Off

Mental disorders are not adjectives.

Choose your words wisely if you want to help fight the stigma of mental illness. Tell me your story. Carrie

23 Jan

By Carrie Heinze-Musgrove, MA, LCPC, self-esteem, 1 Comment

Come on, I dare you.

Do you say “yes” because you fear being disliked? Have you ever stayed in a relationship you don’t want to be in because you fear being alone? Have you ever stayed at job you hated because you just couldn’t imagine starting over? Do you massively procrastinate? Have you ever committed to something, only to end … Continue reading »

21 Jan

By Carrie Heinze-Musgrove, MA, LCPC, depression, 1 Comment

Bricks in the wall.

When we’ve been hurt, we immediately want to protect ourselves. When we’ve been wounded, we don’t want to feel the pain. So we change our behavior to act as a defense mechanism for the “next time.” These mechanisms compound to build a thicker and thicker wall to “protect” ourselves. These walls keep the world at … Continue reading »

20 Jan

By Carrie Heinze-Musgrove, MA, LCPC, self-esteem, 3 Comments

Are you developing your intuition and an awareness of who you really are?

Do you place confidence in yourself and what you know to be true for you? If you spend a lot of time regretting things you’ve done or decisions you’ve made or can’t make a decision, you don’t trust yourself. If you beat yourself up, if you think you’re not doing good enough, or if you … Continue reading »

18 Jan

By Carrie Heinze-Musgrove, MA, LCPC, relationships, Comments Off

Punishing everyone for the insecurities caused by another.

If you are concerned that your own insecurities, or someone else’s insecurities, from past relationships may be hampering your emotional growth, it may be time for therapy. If self-doubt remains problematic in your current relationships, counseling may be the answer. If you get involved with hurtful individuals, pick people to “fix”, prevent yourself from entering … Continue reading »

17 Jan

By Carrie Heinze-Musgrove, MA, LCPC, self-esteem, Comments Off

I’m broken and I need someone to fix me and make me whole again.

Waiting for someone else to fix you is the quickest way towards both misery and failure. If someone becomes your only source of security, safety or love, once they’re gone, they’ll be taking it with them. Stop blaming others for what you have or don’t have, or for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop … Continue reading »

16 Jan

By Carrie Heinze-Musgrove, MA, LCPC, relationships, Comments Off

Emotional Baggage.

Emotional baggage is unresolved, painful feelings and memories from the past that continue to negatively affect behaviors and attitudes in our current relationships. You dated a liar. You were abused as a child. You married a cheater. Your business partner screwed you. Your partner had a bad temper. Your parents constantly criticized you. Your ex … Continue reading »

14 Jan

By Carrie Heinze-Musgrove, MA, LCPC, depression, Comments Off

What You Need to Know About Self-Reliance.

Learning to stand on your own two feet prepares you for times in life when you have no other choice. When you learn self-sufficiency, you also learn self-resilience. This means you are able to bounce back from problems, stress and heartbreak more readily than those who depend too much on others. If you want to … Continue reading »

13 Jan

By Carrie Heinze-Musgrove, MA, LCPC, depression, 1 Comment

Fake it ’til you make it.

“Grin and bear it.” “Put on a brave face.” “Fake it ’til you make it.” If you don’t feel whole, just pretend you are until you gain the experience or tools necessary to make it reality. Sometimes, this is excellent advice. Most people feel overwhelmed or insecure from time to time. Maybe you are interviewing … Continue reading »

10 Jan

By Carrie Heinze-Musgrove, MA, LCPC, anxiety, Comments Off

Anxiety: Facing your fears.

Everyone feels anxious sometimes. This is normal. Mild anxiety may even help a person become more alert and focused on the task at hand. Extreme fear and worry that does not subside, however, may be symptoms of an anxiety disorder. For some , anxiety can be so intense and frequent that it begins to interfere … Continue reading »