Relationships

Do you give your time, attention and energy to practically anyone who asks for it? Saying “no”, whatever the request, can make us feel unlovable, guilty, selfish, anxious, uncomfortable and rejected. Many of us have a desire to make everyone happy, even if it is at our own expense. Our need for safety, love and … Continue reading »

The silent treatment is one of the most common forms of conflict in relationships. It is also the most damaging. Radio silence stems from hurt feelings and an inability or unwillingness to express yourself appropriately. Children sulk when they don’t get their way and learn that shutting out people is a form of punishment. As … Continue reading »

Some abuse is obvious and it is apparent that what is being done to you is clearly unacceptable. It becomes necessary to take a stand. But what do you do when you’re manipulated just a little bit every day? What happens when the abuse isn’t so obvious? What do you do if you just don’t … Continue reading »

If you frequently feel somebody got you to do something you didn’t really want to do, or if you end up in a situations that you didn’t choose, you might want to consider whether you are being emotionally manipulated. Emotional manipulation occurs when someone intentionally controls and manipulates you into feeling or acting a certain … Continue reading »

A better question may be, “Why is it so difficult for people to tell the truth?” Trust is a key ingredient of success in any relationship: friendships, romance, social or business relationships. Do you believe in the inherent goodness of most people? Is it possible to also be discerning and cautious? Some people have a … Continue reading »

Are you experiencing these issues? 1. You walk on eggshells to avoid upsetting your partner. 2. Your feelings and opinions are rarely validated. 3. Your partner is mistrustful of you for no reason. 4. You feel like you are unable to discuss problems in the relationship. 5. You feel “stuck” or confused most of the … Continue reading »

How do you forgive someone when every fiber of your being resists? How do you forgive yourself when you can’t even look at yourself in the mirror? There is a misconception that if we forgive someone, it either lets the person off the hook, or is somehow an indication that what happened was okay. But … Continue reading »