Self-Esteem

12 Feb

By Carrie Heinze-Musgrove, MA, LCPC, relationships, 2 Comments

What does “love yourself first” really mean?

There is an old cliché we’ve all heard many times before which is to “love yourself first”. This is an almost impossible task to learn on your own. It’s not a logical process and most likely you’ve been taught erroneously that loving yourself first is selfish and pathetic. But here’s the deal. You can’t give … Continue reading »

20 Jan

By Carrie Heinze-Musgrove, MA, LCPC, self-esteem, 3 Comments

Are you developing your intuition and an awareness of who you really are?

Do you place confidence in yourself and what you know to be true for you? If you spend a lot of time regretting things you’ve done or decisions you’ve made or can’t make a decision, you don’t trust yourself. If you beat yourself up, if you think you’re not doing good enough, or if you … Continue reading »

18 Jan

By Carrie Heinze-Musgrove, MA, LCPC, relationships, Comments Off

Punishing everyone for the insecurities caused by another.

If you are concerned that your own insecurities, or someone else’s insecurities, from past relationships may be hampering your emotional growth, it may be time for therapy. If self-doubt remains problematic in your current relationships, counseling may be the answer. If you get involved with hurtful individuals, pick people to “fix”, prevent yourself from entering … Continue reading »

17 Jan

By Carrie Heinze-Musgrove, MA, LCPC, self-esteem, Comments Off

I’m broken and I need someone to fix me and make me whole again.

Waiting for someone else to fix you is the quickest way towards both misery and failure. If someone becomes your only source of security, safety or love, once they’re gone, they’ll be taking it with them. Stop blaming others for what you have or don’t have, or for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop … Continue reading »

14 Jan

By Carrie Heinze-Musgrove, MA, LCPC, depression, Comments Off

What You Need to Know About Self-Reliance.

Learning to stand on your own two feet prepares you for times in life when you have no other choice. When you learn self-sufficiency, you also learn self-resilience. This means you are able to bounce back from problems, stress and heartbreak more readily than those who depend too much on others. If you want to … Continue reading »

06 Jan

By Carrie Heinze-Musgrove, MA, LCPC, self-esteem, Comments Off

How can anyone love me?

We pretend, don’t we? We put up a fantastic front. We make believe that everything is ok. We want people to think that we are “normal”. But what lies beneath the surface is a person fraught with shame, insecurities, self-doubt, anxieties and fear. Being able to love ourselves can prove to be a nearly impossible … Continue reading »

03 Jan

By Carrie Heinze-Musgrove, MA, LCPC, #self-esteem, Comments Off

Working on improving your self-esteem and confidence?

At its simplest, self-esteem is the extent to which we respect and value ourselves. If you are super-critical or unkind to yourself, your self-esteem is likely to be low. This causes a host of problems; from a lack of confidence, to depression, anxiety, underachievement, addiction, problems with anger, relationships, and self-destructive behaviors. These problems then … Continue reading »

31 Dec

By Carrie Heinze-Musgrove, MA, LCPC, self-esteem, Comments Off

Don’t forget…

Darling, Open your eyes. You are not made up of those words that hurt you. Or that number on the scale. Or the expectations that you feel you will never meet. You are made up of nothing more than you. Simply, beautifully, wonderfully, uniquely you. You are a lovely and complex soul. An individually fascinating … Continue reading »

19 Dec

By Carrie Heinze-Musgrove, MA, LCPC, self-esteem, Comments Off

How you treat yourself is how you are inviting the world to treat you.

Treat yourself as a Queen and you’ll attract a King.

16 Dec

By Carrie Heinze-Musgrove, MA, LCPC, selfesteem, Comments Off

Self-care and the vicious cycle.

Neglecting your needs and having an uncaring attitude towards yourself is a common symptom of depression. Feeling low, self-criticism and self-blame encourages a neglectful and uncaring attitude towards yourself. In turn, this contributes to low mood and low self-worth. It is a vicious cycle. Therapy breaks this pattern. Therapy sessions frequently address how to help … Continue reading »