Does everyone come to you for help? Are you a compulsive fixer? If someone feels down, do you try to fix it? Is there a rescuer in you? Do you become absorbed in other people’s problems, which were not really your problems to begin with? Does the problem somehow manage to become your problem? Are you the only one coming up with solutions?
If you are always trying to fix other people’s lives, you are not alone. However, people have learned to depend on you. You have taught them you will always be there to jump in and save them. And frankly, there is never really a need for them to change or figure out anything for themselves.
Your desire to help comes from a genuine and compassionate place. However, most likely, you lack self-worth and value. In wanting to be indispensable to others, you compensate for a lack of self-love. Or perhaps you focus so intensely on others that fixing is a great way to avoid sorting out your own issues.
A good way to identify if you have a problem with rescuing is when your taking care of others outweighs taking care of yourself.
It time to focus on yourself. Take the next step.
Carrie
This is so me. It is exhausting sometimes, but it does take my mind off my own problems. At times its healing and other times it can be a burden.
Yes, it is not a solution though. You’re always last.