Would people say you handle life with ease? Do you appear unfazed by setbacks or obstacles? Would the ones closest to you ever guess the pain you’re going through?
You can carry yourself well through confidence, self-respect, good communication and treating yourself and others well. You can take care of yourself and your body AND you can simultaneously be burdened and weighed down by life.
The two are not mutually exclusive.
Things are not always what they seem to be. We are ALL carrying something that is heavy. Everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about.
Many of us don’t know how to deal with our emotions, so we tend to focus on the day-to-day matters that are more tangible and pressing. We put our heads down and keep moving forward. The need to keep going can stem for the desire to be seen by others as capable, competent, or maybe even perfect. Slowing down or acknowledging pain may spark feelings of inadequacy and shame.
Your pain is valid. But just because you don’t let other people see it, doesn’t mean you’re indestructible. It takes a lot of effort to appear as if you’re fine.
So how do you break this cycle?
The most important thing you can do is openly and honestly address what you’re feeling. Having a simple conversation and being straightforward is just the first step of many.
How many times have you hidden your tears from the rest of the world? How many times have you said everything was ok when it clearly wasn’t?
Carrie
