When it becomes an obstacle for happiness instead of a source of happiness, and there is no longer a way or a will to fix it, then you must ask why you are in it.
Ending relationships is a painful proposition. The emotions, the history, the friends and family you share it with, the fear of loneliness, and many other factors mean that ending a relationship requires an incredible amount of strength.
Though the pain may subside over time, it should not be forgotten. Pain gives us the wisdom to choose wisely. To wait for someone that will treat us the way we deserve to be treated. Someone who will treat us with love and respect no matter what else is going on in our lives.
Therapy can help you gain both strength and wisdom. It can help you decide for yourself if the relationship is worth having, if it is fixable, or if it is time to move on. It gives you the tools with which to avoid making the same mistakes.
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Carrie
What if there is children in the relationship
My partner suffers with depression but getting to my limit now with the lies and i want to matter too
But if have children its much harder not to try to give him another chance
Karen,
With a broad brush, I can tell you that it appears you are giving yourself to your partner and children and leaving nothing for your own needs. If you don’t focus on yourself, everyone will suffer, most importantly… you. You need to ask yourself whether your relationship with your partner is really beneficial for either you or your children. Only you know the answer.
These situations are always extremely difficult and painful. Making changes can seem overwhelming. As the flight attendant says… use the oxygen mask yourself first, then you can assist those around you.
I wish you the strength you need. You are full capable of finding your way through this. I promise you.
Carrie