Rejection. The sudden loss of the warmth and security you took for granted. Shame and self-doubt from not being good enough. Sadness over what you have lost and what will never be. Anger from the deception and misplaced trust. Fear that you will never replace what you have lost. And pain like you have never known.
Is this the new you? Not at all.
The actions, opinions, and mistakes of the people around you do not define you. You deserve so much more. You absolutely deserve so much more.
Whether you have ended the relationship, plan to end it, or want to fix it, the most important part remains the same. It is the realization that you deserve more. That the actions, opinions, and mistakes of the people around you do not define you. You must regain your self-confidence and your self-worth. Without these things, you cannot move forward.
You are not alone. I want to hear your story.
Carrie
Hi Carrie
Love this article. Nearly 2 years ago I was betrayed and I still struggle daily to “get over it”. I fell in love with my best friend and my feelings weren’t reciprocated. Fair enough. I was working through that. Then I started seeing someone new as an attempt to move on. My best friend contacted my new beau behind my back and they started dating. When I found out, I was so shocked & hurt that I initially wished them well & tried to be the bigger person. But I was kidding myself. I ended up lashing out at both of them for hurting me. Neither felt they had done anything wrong and wouldn’t apologise. I wish I had handled things differently. I’m so lost without my best friend. But when I do try to reach out & mend fences, I just get ignored. It breaks my heart to have been so rejected by the person who I respected most in my life.
Thank you Daniel. I hope you realize better than what you are getting. I’m sorry you’ve had to go through that. It doesn’t sound like these are the kind of people you need in your life.