Self-Esteem Assessment

I generally feel anxious in new social situations where I may not know what is expected of me.

I find it difficult to hear criticism about myself.

I fear being made to look like a fool.

I tend to magnify my mistakes and minimize my successes.

I am very critical of myself and others.

I have periods in which I feel devastated and/or depressed.

I am anxious and fearful much of the time.

When someone mistreats me I think that I must have done something to deserve it.

I have difficulty knowing who to trust and when to trust.

I often feel like I don’t know the right thing to do or say.

I am very concerned about my appearance.

I am easily embarrassed.

I think others are very focused on – and critical of – what I say and do.

I fear making a mistake which others might see.

I often feel depressed about things I’ve said and done, or things I failed to say or do.

I have avoided making changes in my life because I was fearful of making a mistake or failing.

I often get defensive and strike back when I perceive I am being criticized.

I have not accomplished what I am capable of due to fear and avoidance.

I tend to let fear and anxiety control many of my decisions.

I tend to think negatively much of the time.

I have found it difficult to perform adequately or without embarrassment when involved in sex.

I’m one of the following: The person who reveals too much personal information about myself or the person who seldom reveals person information.

I often get so anxious that I don’t know what to say

I often procrastinate.

I try to avoid conflict and confrontation.

I’ve been told I’m too sensitive.

I felt inferior or inadequate as a child.

I tend to think that I have higher standards than others.

I often feel like I don’t know what is expected of me.

I often compare myself to others.

I frequently think negative thoughts about myself and others.

I often feel that others mistreat me and or take advantage of me.

At night, I frequently review my day, analyzing what I said and did or what others said and did to me that day.

I often make decisions on the basis of what would please others rather than what I want or without even considering what I want.

I often think that others don’t respect me.

I often refrain from sharing my opinions, my ideas, and my feelings in groups.

I sometimes lie when I feel that the truth would result in criticism or rejection.

I’m fearful that I will say or do something that will make me look stupid or incompetent.

I do not set goals for the future.

I am easily discouraged.

I am not very aware of my feelings.

I grew up in a dysfunctional home.

I think life is harder for me than for most other people.

I often avoid situations where I think I will be uncomfortable.

I tend to be a perfectionist, needing to look perfect and to do things perfectly.

I feel too embarrassed to eat out alone or attend movies and other activities by myself.

I often find myself angry or hurt by the behavior and words of others.

At times I get so anxious or upset that I experience most of the following: heart racing or pounding, sweating, tearfulness, blushing, difficulty swallowing or lump in my throat, shaking, poor concentration, dizziness, nausea or diarrhea, butterflies.

I am very fearful of criticism, disapproval or rejection.

I rely on the opinion of others to make decisions.