We accept jobs we hate, we deal with friends who let us down and we let our significant others get away with all kinds of shit. But if you settle on the IMPORTANT parts of life such as your partner’s values, your social group, or your job — you’re in for a long, tough life.
Why do people choose to be complacent instead of moving to where there are better opportunities? It’s familiar. It’s what we know how to do. It’s predictable. It’s comfortable. It’s habit. It’s what we’ve always done. We don’t need to think. We put up with things just because we have never thought of doing them differently.
We’re afraid and fear has the power to paralyze us in the face of potential change.
So, what do we do? We convince ourselves that we should keep our expectations and standards low to avoid getting hurt or let down.
It’s easy to look in the mirror and see all our flaws and imperfections rather than all the beauty.
It’s easy to make excuses for people that we care about.
It’s easy to overlook things we shouldn’t because we want everything to work out as planned.
It’s easy to think that because we have wronged people in the past, we deserve to be wronged in return.
It’s easy to ignore red flags because we love someone.
It’s easy to fail to see everything that’s wrong when we’ve invested so much of ourselves in making it work.
It’s easy to make excuses and live with the disappointment rather than to make a change.
Sound familiar? Therapy can help you to address these issues and help you to understand that you truly deserve better than what you have been getting. Therapy can teach you to walk away from anything or anyone that doesn’t or can’t appreciate these things. If you feel like you deserve better, it is because you do.
Right now is the best time to begin your journey. Contact me and let’s begin today.
Carrie
