relationships

Do you find yourself avoiding confrontation? Do you steer clear of conflict at all costs? Do you hate the tension and worry when a confrontation is imminent? Do you find yourself consumed by bad feelings that linger long after a confrontation is over? You are not alone. Maybe you came from a family where no … Continue reading »

If you always find yourself having to prove your worth to someone, you have already lost your value. “He loves me, he loves me not.” “She loves me, she loves me not.” Have you ever been in a relationship like this? The one in which one person seeks to determine whether or not the object … Continue reading »

Do you feel you are always to blame? Are you made to feel everything is your fault? Is nothing you do ever right? One of the biggest clues you are in a problematic relationship is how the relationship makes you feel overall. If interactions leave you feeling troubled, distressed, anxious, and guilty or feeling like … Continue reading »

People who have experienced hurt, betrayal and abuse have every right to be angry and resentful. These feelings are perfectly normal. But we know that holding on to anger can be incredibly damaging on a number of levels. There is a healing, a power and a reconciliation that comes from forgiveness. By all means, learn … Continue reading »

Our inner circle greatly influences our successes and, believe it or not, our failures. Do you ever give consideration to who is in your inner circle and why? At it’s healthiest your inner circle provides a sense of honesty, encouragement, support, motivation, cooperation, trust, safety and accountability. Yet, many of us hold on tightly to … Continue reading »

1. Do I have clearly defined boundaries? The biggest way to tell if you are being treated like a doormat is to identify whether or not the people in your life recognize or respect your boundaries. Boundaries are the invisible lines that we create in relationships that both keep us happy and prevent us from … Continue reading »

Do you have an idea in your head of who you want to be? Have you come to the realization that this woman, the one that got you this far, no longer works for you? Have you ever envisioned the kind of person you would like to be? You know that girl… confident, self-assured and … Continue reading »

Most relationships can tolerate a reasonable amount of stress. It is unrealistic to think that everyone can behave perfectly 100% of the time. Nor should that be the goal of your relationships. However, it is important to differentiate between what things simply annoy you and are trivial in the relationship, and which behaviors and conditions … Continue reading »

Do you take on other people’s issues?  Without knowing it we internalize what we hear; whether it be from family members, co-workers or close friends. Are you feeling trapped? Locked in the middle? Uncomfortable? Do you have the urge to fix it, to ease their pain, to make it all better? The first step is … Continue reading »