We, as humans, make mistakes. So, there are things… things we do or don’t do, things we say or don’t say, relationships that go horribly wrong… all of which yield bad results or perceived bad results.
When the emotional trauma from one or more bad decisions begins to erode our self-esteem, we often become afraid to rely on our own judgment. We simply don’t trust ourselves because we focus on the negative outcomes of some of the choices we have made.
Consequently, sometimes we don’t make any choice at all and remain paralyzed in fear of making the wrong decision. Other times, instead of making another bad decision on our own, we look to other people for THEIR answers. It becomes much easier to take someone else’s advice than to follow our own hearts and intuition. If we make mistakes or get hurt based on someone else’s guidance, we can blame them and not have to look at ourselves.
People who don’t trust themselves, however, create self-perpetuating cycles of stress and anxiety, which prevent them from getting to a place where they’re happy or satisfied. Trusting ourselves means we have to own up to and take responsibility for our choices. You may not be ready for this. Therapy can help you get ready.
Carrie
