Watering Dead Flowers.

Are you in a relationship where you argue about the same things over and over again? Do your bad experiences in your marriage outweigh the good? Are you in a career where you are ethically or morally challenged? As hard as you try, does a happy future seem out of reach? Maybe getting out of bed in the morning seems like an impossible task. Do you keep trying to squeeze one more result out of something that is not giving you what you want? Are you putting in more than you’re getting? Are you wasting your effort when there is no chance of succeeding?

When you come to this giant fork in the road, letting go and moving on can seem impossible. It is perfectly normal to wonder how and when and even if or should it happen. And obviously calling it quits too early can leave you wallowing in regrets. But keep in mind that being “content” or “meh” can easily lead to complacency.

Complacency is a feeling of being satisfied with how things are (even meh) and not wanting to try to make them better. It leads to lots of excuses. “I’ll wait until after the holiday.” “I don’t have time to look for a job right now.” “It’s not THAT bad.” “I’ve already invested too much to let go now” or “what are people going to think of me?” “Maybe a miracle will happen.”

When you become complacent, you begin to offer reasons about why you are not growing. Why you cannot do anything new. Why “that” will not work for you and so forth. Therefore, it becomes easy to use your excuses as the reason you acceptance your status quo. It’s a vicious cycle.

Listen to what messages you’re telling yourself. Listen to your excuses. You owe it to yourself to reevaluate your life from time to time. Understand why you do what you do. Then figure out how to change those things that are in your control.

Some of your excuses are holding you back and some of them are killing you. You gotta stop watering the dead flowers.

Take the next step.

Carrie