Have you ever felt emotionally drained after spending time with someone? Does a friend demand too much of your time in unreasonable ways? Has a partner belittled your feelings or ideas? Does an employer make unreasonable demands?
Are you aware of the impact people, places and things have on your energy?
Pay attention to what feeds or charges you and what depletes or drains you.
Although some life draining situations are inevitable, we can learn how to protect ourselves in many situations. Setting boundaries is how to accomplish this.
Boundaries are designed to protect and honor important parts of our lives. They are created to clarify what are acceptable and unacceptable behaviors from others. Just as a fence protects our home and preserves our property, personal boundaries protect ourselves.
Healthy boundaries are a crucial part of life and an important aspect of any self-care practice. While one might feel selfish when setting boundaries, they are necessary for mental health and well being. By recognizing the need to set and enforce limits, you protect your self- esteem, maintain self-respect, and enjoy healthy relationships.
Often in therapy we explore your right to self-care and how to get past the guilt.
Setting boundaries takes practice and determination. Don’t let anxiety or low self-esteem prevent you from taking care of yourself.
If you need help learning how to protect yourself and your right to self-care, contact me at carrie@carrienet.com.
Carrie
