Life doesn’t always go according to plan. Relationships can be difficult. Many problems in relationships can be worked through. But what happens when they can’t?
Knowing if something can be saved or not is confusing and overwhelming. Should I stay? Should I give up? If I stay, do I just wait to see if things get better in time? Should I try to get my partner to change? Should I keep talking about the same issues over and over in the hope that it triggers understanding, remorse and eventual change? How long do I keep hoping? When is enough enough? And If I leave, how is life going to be?
Many times, there are things you simply can’t seem to agree on. Not getting along with family and friends, money problems, control, sex, career, children from previous relationships, a lingering ex, infidelity and different goals, are some of the issues that complicate relationships. Likewise, dragging up the past into the present can also be incredibly damaging and futile.
We can get through hard things. We can get through tough times. When we decide it is no longer worth it, then it’s time for a change. The foundation for a relationship is mutual love, care, trust and respect. If any of these are missing, you will not be able to weather the storm for very long.
One of the best things you can do regardless of where you stand is to make certain you are actively taking care of yourself and working on your own self-esteem. Start taking care of your needs. Begin to assert yourself to increase the possibility of those needs being met. Begin monitoring your time and energy given to others. Taking care of yourself will allow you to be there for yourself and your relationship.
Carrie
