Do you attach your worth to what someone thinks of you? Has someone important in your life left you? Do you feel unlovable? Do you obsess, overanalyze or replay every past scenario in attempts to uncover what you did wrong?
Poor self-worth drives our life choices and what we say and do. It keeps us in bad relationships past their expiration date. When a relationship ends, poor self-worth also causes us to feel devastated, unlovable and broken. Constantly trying to do and be everything in order to be “enough” is exhausting.
If you cannot learn how to value yourself, then you will always be attracted to people who don’t value you either. Oftentimes, this happens on an unconscious level.
We continue to think we can get people to change their ways or break down their walls. Mistakenly, we believe that if THEY change, then we’ll REALLY be worthy and valuable. But what happens most often is we end up compromising our own integrity.
What would your life be like if you lost the ability to think, “I’m not good enough”?
Having happy relationships is not guaranteed for people who have high self-esteem. However, it does give you the skills needed to identify what you want and deserve… in friendships, family or intimate relationships. Learning the tools you need to weed out anyone who truly doesn’t value you is the key. High self-worth also allows you the strength to walk away when people fall short.
Stop trying to prove your worthiness through other people. It is important to take action not only to rebuild your self-worth, but also to ensure you don’t continue to feel this way. It’s not healthy.
While it is difficult to rebuild broken or damaged self-esteem, it is not impossible. It is important to find someone qualified to help you with this process. If you’re ready to break free from other people dictating your worth, consider therapy.
You are enough. Promise.
Carrie
