Do you think you need to have it all figured out before you start? Are you feeling pressured from others to have a life plan or purpose? Do you think you should be further along than you actually are? Do you think you should have an amazing career, the perfect marriage, be financially set and have a self-assured, confident air and sense of who you are and what you stand for?
This much is true: Not having a vision or purpose can lead to chronic dissatisfaction with life, inner turmoil and general unhappiness and discontent in relationships and simply being.
However, here is what you need to know. Where you think you ‘SHOULD BE’ at this point in your life is immaterial and irrelevant. Thinking you ‘SHOULD BE’ somewhere in life indicates to me that your life is heavily influenced by what others EXPECT you to be doing. Or you have unrealistic expectations you put on yourself as a younger version of you, who didn’t have all the information you have now. Life isn’t always linear.
You can only be who you are in this exact moment. Nothing more. Nothing less.
Often, when facing a new challenge, we tell ourselves that we don’t have the experience or background to pull it off. Sometimes, this transitions into “I’m not good enough and if I’m not good enough then I’m not going to be loved.” This leads to fear, inaction and chronic procrastination.
You need to know that you don’t have to have it all figured out to move forward. You don’t even need to know a portion of it. You’re not supposed to have it all figured out by now. You have to start and then figure it out along the way.
Therapy teaches you when you are having “survival thoughts.” The purpose of these procrastinating, self-berating thoughts is to keep you safe and keep you where you are. Inactive. Familiar. Comfortable.
Learn to access your courage. Develop a mindset of “I’m going to learn. I don’t know what I’m doing but I’m going to do it anyway.”
Today, I challenge you to do something you really want to do but you have been telling yourself you’re not good enough to pull off.
What is that one action that you can take today?
You don’t have to have it all figured out quite yet.
Carrie
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